Could Pleasure Be the Key to Managing Pain?

I just finished a one-on-one session with a brand new client, and I couldn’t wait to jump on here and share something I gave her as homework. It's a little experiment that could change the way you think about managing pain — and it's for any of my babes out there who are experiencing discomfort of any kind.

Let’s talk about pleasure, pain, and a new way forward.

When I first read "Pussy: A Reclamation" by Regena Thomashauer, one thing that really stood out was the way she talked about managing menstrual cramps. Instead of reaching for painkillers or just suffering through it, she experimented with using orgasm as her medicine.

She discovered that if she orgasmed every four hours, she could stay ahead of the pain. No cramps, no agony — just the flow of her body, supported by pleasure.

Pretty amazing, right?

So here’s the invitation
If you're experiencing pain — and it doesn’t have to be menstrual pain, it can be any pain at all — why not try this for yourself?

Here’s how to run your own pleasure experiment:

• Have an orgasm.
• Pause and tune in. Notice how you feel immediately afterwards. Has the pain changed? Has it lessened? Has it disappeared altogether?
• Stay curious. Rather than constantly checking in on your pain, just notice naturally when (or if) it returns. How much time passes?
• Repeat.
• When the pain returns, orgasm again. And see what happens.

The idea is to play with it — try managing your pain with pleasure for one whole day and see what your body tells you.

But wait — there's science behind this!
This isn’t just wishful thinking or some fluffy idea. When you orgasm, your body releases oxytocin (aka the "love hormone") along with a beautiful rush of endorphins — both of which are known to naturally relieve pain.

It’s the body’s own built-in pharmacy, and it’s completely free, accessible, and (let's be honest) a whole lot more enjoyable than popping pills.

Why this matters
Pain management so often feels cold, clinical, and disconnected from our bodies.
But what if — just what if — there’s a more delicious, pleasure-filled way to care for ourselves?

So go have a play. Be curious. Let your body guide you.
And if it works for you — please share it. Tell your sisters, your friends, your group chat.

Let’s hope that there’s a more delicious, pleasure filled way to care for our bodies and ease pain.

I'd love to hear how your experiment goes. Message me, comment, share — let's spread this magic far and wide.